|Was your partner slowly getting distant? Were you showing more and more interest to make them stay with you, but it didn’t help and you broke up? What to do in such situation?|
To begin with, after breakup you can’t make elementary mistakes: don’t harbour a grudge against your partner just because they left you, don’t blame them for the situation and don’t get offended. Such negative behavior leads to hostility. It only works for your disadvantage. Don’t try to give your partner logical arguments why you should be together. Don’t beg them to get back with you and don’t suggest that you would still love to be with them. Don’t say anything about your feelings. Don’t ask your partner if they miss you. Don’t reminisce about old good times. Your partner broke up with you because you were the more engaged party.
If you want to get back with your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend, you have to show that you don’t wanna be with them anymore. You have to become a challenge for them once again. This is the most important factor.
To achieve this, you should show the lack of interest just after breakup. It’s best not to get in touch with your ex for a while or at least not to contact them first. For how long? This is a very individual matter. The more mistakes you made after breakup, this means: the longer you showed your desperation, the longer you should not contact them. It’s usually a period between one week and 2 months, but in most cases 3 or 4 weeks are enough.
The more time passes, the greater challenge you become, because after some time your ex partner will have doubts if you still wanto to be with them or maybe you’ve already forgotten about them and are meeting somebody new.
Many people are afraid to give up the contact, because they think it would make them loose the chance to get their partner back. But it’s not true! You can’t help the situation untill you fix the balance of feelings. Therefeore, the faster you break off contacts with your ex, the better for you. It’s important to show the lack of interest even when your ex partner contacts you first. Such situation is very likely. Then you should answer at most 2 messages. If they call you, then pick up the phone and talk for a while, but be the one to finish the conversation. If your ex proposes a meeting, say something like: „That’s a great idea! I’d like to meet you, but I’m a bit busy right now. I will talk to you when I have more time.”.
Ignoring the first tries of meeting you is very important. If you were immediately interested in meeting your ex, then you would show that only one word is enough for you to start meeting them again. In other words, you would just prove that you are at your ex’s fingertips. That’s someting totally opposite to being a challenge.
Besides, at the bery beginning your ex will probably contact you just to check how you are doing.
If your partner tries to contact or meet you, ignore it at first. Wait around one week and after the time you can try to renew the relation. Well, you have to renew it anyway, but if your ex partner doesn’t try to contact you first, you have to wait a bit longer.
Remember to renew the relation gradually. It’s very risky to propose a meeting during the first call or in the few first messages. It’s usually best when the first try is very short and is rather like a reminder that you still exist. At the same time you should still show the lack of interest. It may seem difficult, but there are many ways to do it. The second call should be a happy conversation just to show that you are fine. Then you should wait a few more days and after the time you can propose a meeting.
There are opinions that getting back with ex is impossible or even if it’s possible, then the relationship ends quite soon. It’s nonsense! If you stop making mistakes and start acting attractive, then the chances to be with your ex again are quite high. What’s more, if you stop making the same mistakes you were making while being in a relationship, there will be no reason for you to break up again.
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