|Many people, especially women associate being a challenge with a complete lack of sex up until you decide on a serious relationship. However, sex itself does not have a lot to do with being a challenge. You can resist having sex with someone and not be much of a challenge for them anyway. This happens when you show how much they really mean to you. On the other hand, you can have sex with a guy on the first date and at the same time make it clear that you are not interested in a relationship. This way you will still be a challenge.|
This factor of attractiveness applies to the fact that you want to be in a relationship with someone, not to the fact that you just want to have sex with them. That’s why men who show that they want only sex also are a great challenge, despite showing multiple signs of interest towards a woman.
This is why, under the aspect of attractiveness, it doesn’t really matter on which date you go to bed with the other person. However, it matters when it comes to the term of trust further when you are in a relationship. If you’re a woman and you have sex with a guy on the first or second date, your partner may have trouble trusting you in the future. Or decide on being with you in general. This of course largely depends on the individual. Many people will not see it as a problem, especially in western societies. However, this way of thinking is still noticeable.
What if you’re a guy? In this case, striving for sex or even showing that it’s on your mind during the first couple of dates, will work for you and you will become a challenge. Thanks to this, the woman you’re dating will wonder if you really want to be with her or if you want just sex. She may not like such doubts and may even be angry because of them, but that doesn’t change the fact that thanks to that you will be more attractive in her eyes.
What’s more, if you don’t strive for sex at the beginning of a relation, then you show the woman that you want to be in a relationship with her. Of course, it’s not bad, but because of such attitude you can easily show too much interest. Besides, some women may think you are not manly enough.
To sum up, deciding on which date you should have sex is a very individual matter. However, in most cases, it’s better when the man shows sexual interest from the very beginning of the relation, but doesn’t insist on going to bed too much, at least at the beginning. This means that he lets the woman decide when to take the next step.
If you are a woman, it’s better to wait at least till the 3rd date or even longer. It depends on what you want and what your rules are.
Remember not to exchange sex for a relationship. This means that even if you do go to bed with a guy, don’t assume that he’s yours. Don’t say that you have sex only when you are in a relationship. Such behavior shows that he means a lot to you and makes you way less of a challenge.
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